Might as well throw my 2 cents into this ancient thread since I took the time to read some of it without noticing the date.
In short, the 13th step is what my EXAGF did about 2-3 months out of Rehab #2. She is an adult, and it takes two to tango. "He really understood her, etc." The final outcome was that she hurt herself, me, and her kids in the process. Soon after she relapsed.
It is your choice, but I can't see it as anything but unhealthy for a newcomer to sobriety.