Toots and BP, I'm also in the mist of a relocation... not across the pond, but the farthest I've ever considered moving from my family to be with my Beau.
It's challenging and hard to make the decision cause there is no way to know how it will end up. It's just one of those things you just have to leap at in Life.. there is no other way to 'test' it. So both of you talking about your experience is helping me...
And Toots, I have also just moved home after 13 years 2 years ago. The relocation was very hard and I experienced everything you described: I left all my friends, my business, my relationship and had a very hard loss of identity. I tried to root here, build and date again, only to come home one day to find my boyfriend committed suicide on our couch.
So I think I'm not suppose to root here. Life has made this a pit stop and all roads are leading to the next location.
It's just been a little rocky detour...