jmartin - I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
I hope you continue with Al Anon - I have found it so very helpful.
It has really helped me focus on me.
Al anon has also taught me to not step in the gorilla cage.
I like the daily reader "Courage To Change."
This forum has also been a great help - just reading through all the posts and seeing other people's experiences and all the wonderful feedback.
Sending good thoughts your way!