I guess I had the whole Al Anon saying in my head: You can say what you feel, just mean what you say, and don't say it mean. I am so tired of ignoring his comments(especially when they're in front of our son) and just blowing it off and letting him think it's acceptable. I guess I felt that at least I got some of it out there and I am hoping the resentments won't build inside of me.
Unfortunately, AH is in a depression again and decided to not go to a party with me tonight. As soon as I came home, he went to bed and ignored me and wouldn't speak to me when I addressed him. I got frustrated and said, "Hello?? I was talking to you!" Yeah, probably not the best thing to do but that damn silence treatment kills me when I try to tell him that a friend of his wanted me to pass on a message to him. I'm assuming he didn't like my email very much.
I totally get what you guys are saying but I have to find some sort of approach where I can address the hurt quickly, express my feelings like an adult, and move on. I buried my feelings for so long and stopped feeling them that I'd like to figure out how to deal with them right now and deal with them like an adult Why is that so wrong?