Thank you ZoSo! you made me feel a bit better...its just hard to recognize these things for what they are now....he told me he loved me so much thhat i was his soulmate but he feels he cant give me what i want because he is sick with his addiction.....i cant hate him.....i worry so much if he will be ok and not end up dead in an alley somewhere.....how do i get 2 the sticky notes? i want to read that article but im having trouble finding it