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Old 04-12-2013, 01:35 PM
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Carlotta
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Hi

I absolutely concur with Laurie. I am glad that your AH is going to AA. Even if it doesn't work out the first time, at least he will get glimpse of the program.
As a codependent myself (and also an alcoholic in recovery) I would suggest that you make sure you work your own program and try not to interfer with his. I know it's hard, I have been there: checking how many meetings my partner made, if he called his sponsor, where he was at with the steps then worrying like crazy if he wasn't working his program up to MY expectations LOL.
Good thing I ended up in Al Anon (his sponsor's wife sent me there, I was a basket case!!!) or I would have ended up in the nuthouse (albeit sober).
This was back in 2001 and the relationship did not last (he was a violent chronic relapser).
Try to think of your Al Anon home group as your own little private island where you can rest, heal and grow and allow him to have his own little AA island where he can do the same at his own pace.

Best of luck to both of you and have a great week end.
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