He has responded with the normal accusations that he is not addicted and that his using is my fault and that I cannot be loving if I cannot help him out.
This is a sure sign that you made the right decision, Sunshine. I have been where you are so many times and each time I let my son come home was a huge mistake, for him and for me. All it did was bring his addiction into my safe place, my home, and made his using easier.
I know how hard this is for you, and you made a very courageous decision, but we both know it is the right decision. We cannot live in their addiction and our recovery at the same time, and I am pretty sure you and I both value our recovery today and won't be giving it up any time soon.
I will keep your son in my prayers, along with my own son. God can do for all our children what we and they cannot do for themselves.
Hugs