Originally Posted by
stella27 
I found that when I lived in the marital home - even post-marriage - XAH was comfortable enough to come into the house. To the kids' rooms, to the kitchen. He lived there for 10 years, he wasn't a stranger there, and boundaries were never his strong suit
Right now I can't technically bar him from entering the home since we aren't yet divorced and I don't have a restraining order (though I wish I did).
And like you say, I find that he has NO respect (shocker) for any boundaries at all. Boundaries = I'm abusing him (LOL!)
We are upside down in the mortgage but I really would love to sell the house (or xAH can buy me out of it) and get something that is just mine and the girls bc I think for as long as I am in what was the "marital" home he will have a sense of entitlement to be there when he likes.
Anyway, I can totally relate to what you describe.