A recovering crack addict here. All I cared about, when I was using was GETTING MORE!!
When will you know for sure? When his actions speak louder than his words. Crack has a lot of signals...disappearing for a time, money missing, items of value (or even NOT of much value) missing, etc.
I'm glad you are looking after you and your kids. None of you deserve what he is doing to you. I found recovery, the two bf's I used crack with didn't.
Please take care of you and the kids, and remember..actions speak way louder than any words.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy