Jodane,
I understand how badly you want to believe he is sorry and reach out to him. If my XA ever actually apologized, it would be really hard for me to stay NC because I'm not healthy yet. That's where SR comes in..
Listen to the people who have already been through this. I've reread English Garden's response to your post about five times; there's so much wisdom and truth to it. Don't answer your XBF. If he is truly sorry, sober, and not living with someone else, it will be revealed in time.
Hugs to you.