Originally Posted by RobbyRobot
Saying my use of failure is undermining is pure projection on your part about my intent.
I don't think so. Bringing up her return to drinking was not relevant to discussion at hand. It appeared to me to be "putting her in her place" and if it appeared that way to me, it's quite possible it appeared that way to others, regardless of your true intent. You can couch it and talk around it anyway you'd like, but the word "failure" does carry a rather negative connotation in our society. You know that, so we don't have to pretend here.
It's really not important to me if you want what I have or don't want it, soberlicious
This isn't about me, Robby. This is about others reading your words as a self-identified member of AA.