After a good deal of work in Alanon I realized 1) the world doesn't revolve around me and b) other people don't think about what I said. They don't think about me either. Like me, people think about themselves, not anyone else. Sharing about this would help, also talking to your sponsor. It's codependency and yes, you can get it under control with some work. Yes, addicts are thin-skinned and judgmental, it's part of being codependent. It's a good sign that you're aware of what you're doing and want to change. You will, I promise!