Liz, I have heard on the forum that when dealing with an active alcoholic, listen to your head rather than your heart.
Everything you have written in this post, I have heard in the past in your other posts. I see his behavior as a certain point in the cycle of abuse (that you have frequently described).
As theuncertainly has posed---I wonder where this therapist is really getting you. She has suggested the same things in the past, also. Generally, one is advised to look for some kind of progress after a year or so when working with a therapist.
I advise to proceed with great caution---because, I suspect that that "little voice" you are hearing is your co-dependent voice lying to you. Similar to the disease voice that lies to the alcoholic.
sincerely, dandylion