Originally Posted by
choublak 
Yeah, and a room with a punching bag hanging from the ceiling...
That made me smile. LOL
The AlAnon house is a great idea. My ex (alcoholic) stayed at the AA clubhouse, they had rooms for rent in the house attached to the club.
Of course, it lasted about two weeks, then he broke the most basic rule.
Do not get drunk.
As far as detaching goes, I can tell you it took me a long time to get it.* I grew up thinking I could control other people and thinking my will power kept the world on its axis. It is tough to get that the only thing I control is me.
Not even my children!
I like to read, and the one I am reading now is "The Codependent's Guide to the Twelve Steps" by Melody Beattie.
Step One We are Powerless.....to me this means we have no control over people, places or things. So, by default, we already are detached, we just need to get our addictive minds to catch up.
I am still working on this one.
*I mean just understanding what it means. I am still working on the execution.