Originally Posted by
Pelican 
I do not recommend 'discussing' the drunken behavior, how it makes you feel, or your plans with him anymore. You have spoken to him and he continues to minimize your concerns. Trying to reason with an active alcoholic is like trying to buy fresh bread at a hardware store.
I agree with this wholeheartedly. I also highly recommend attending al-anon meetings and reading their literature. It saved my life when I lived with my ex-husband and still saves my sanity to this day. They talk about detaching with love, and I learned how to be non-reactive in those situations and stay calm. It took me years but I did it.