I'm so sorry that your girlfriend does not respect you. I can't imagine how hard it must be to be in a relationship with someone who is a heavy drinker while your trying to stay sober. I have been lucky that my husband is not a drinker, he used to enjoy a couple with me...as I went on to have many more, but he saw how it wasn't fun anymore, and stopped. For a whole there I thought he was the "boring" one. That he was too serious and judged me too much, until I woke up an realized I have the problem. I would reevaluate your relationship. You have a new look on life it seems and she is still stuck back where you used to be.