Dear dancingnow, I understand the dreaded fear of relapse. When we have suffered so much from alcoholism, we become hyper-vigilant for anything in the environment which might snatch away the precious sobriety.
It is like we see their sobriety as the route from the prison that their drinking has sentenced us to. In our own way, we become as desperate as they are.
Yet, just like them, we are powerless over alcohol.
Just curious--if you care to say, of course---exactly what was your daughter angry at you for. You must feel very lonely, right now.
sincerely, dandylion