Thanks for the replies guys and gals.
I think the main things I have to do is keep my daughter my priority and be able to accept the fact that when this thing plays out with her sober or not we may no longer be a couple. That's my own issue that I have to handle. Just by being with her so long I know that she will respect me less if I puppy dog around her and beg for her affection. That's where I hope al anon will help. Posting here with all of you responding is a tremendous help. Thank you all. Im embarrassed to admit I was in tears at that L anon meeting today.