Thank you everyone. I think I knew boundaries are for me but all the comments really cemented that idea. And, the other thing that was helpful to hear was that I don't need to necessarily communicate my boundaries to RAH. Thanks!
LexieCat -Thanks for the legal advice. I have already gone to an attorney to find out my rights, etc and yes, I left feeling powerful by having that info. Of course I have not told RAH I saw an attorney. I also feel better that I have a great attorney secured in the event I need one. I also appreciate your perspective on divorce - I think I have been thinking of it as a failure. What a great way to shift my thinking -thanks!
Florence said something about taking back my power. I realize I have lost my power. How do I regain that? Is that the result of taking care of me, setting my boundaries and detaching?