(((Vale)))
Had you not met "her" - you would not have sought out God. As painful as she was to your life, I, for one, am glad she came in it. I know there was a plan and a reason for it.
There are many valuable lessons to be learned in life. Some I wouldn't wish on anyone, but the lessons can make us stronger, weaker, more compassionate or more cynical. The choice is ours. I pray you continue to feed your spirit with faith.
I hope I do not come across as too "preachy."