:horse:horse:horseDear cagirl9, do not assume that your daughter is not being damaged by this atmosphere. A child cannot "thrive" in this---even if you feel that you are "coping".
Divorce is not as damaging to childen as living in active alcoholism with BOTH parents.
Actually, facing reality is not as bad as trying to "fight" it. Really, this must be sapping all of your life energy. Your daughter can't possible be getting the benefit of a serene and happy mother.
Food for thought,
sincerely, dandylion