Thank you all.
Hanna - yes we don't have much of a relationship. He's refused to go to marriage counseling and my therapist said he doesn't think it will work at this point because RAH doesn't seem to be working a program. RAH is still shifting blame on me for everything. Therapist said if and when I do move forward with a divorce that I need to be prepared to be blamed for it. My therapist thinks RAH is pushing me to file for divorce so he can be the victim. It seems my only option is divorce - I'm slowly accepting that reality. It's really tough. I feel like my choice is the lesser for two evils - A divorce (hate to put my 14 yr DD through that) or try to find a way to cope/thrive in this marriage.
Thanks!