jayho,
knowing you need to do things differently and try something new is a good knowledge to have.
as is knowing the sequence it used to play out in, the friday night, or visit to friends, the cajoling and negotiating with hubby, the inevitable outcome.
seeing that ahead of time gives ample opportunity to put blocks in place.
since hubby has offered help and support, ask him to never ever listen to your begging and just to walk away without engaging in a discussion about whether you'll drink or not.
that's one thing.
plan ahead for friday night and the "reward-urge" if you have it.
changing things might mean that you DON'T go certain places for a while.
that kind of stuff.
two tools that helped me were daily participation on a recovery forum and the book "recovery by choice" by Martin Nicolaus, which is full of thoughtful self-exploratory questions to think about at your leisure. you can access a chapter on the web at
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