Originally Posted by
Hopefulme 
I want to be angry at my dad for wasting his life (he's only 59), but everytime I see his bony, sick body, all I can do is feel sorry for him.
Almost to the word these were my wife's feelings. Her father was 59 when he died. You are making a different and positive choice right now so hang on to it.
Glad your other half is going to try to be supportive, I relying on that if/when the time comes.