Completely agree with the above poster... the engines are definitely on fire and the plane is going down.
Eject! Eject! Eject!
Please stick around and read, read, read, read... he is drinking alcoholically and the best thing you can do for him and yourself is extricate yourself as quickly as possible and hit the exit doors....
Trying to ensnare an enabler and fix up a cozy nest to get drunk in is so tempting to the A that they will do or say anything to draw you into the web of addiction they live in...
My thought for the day is that " Red flags are not party favors. Do not collect them"...
read, read, read... lots of good stuff on this forum that will help you understand the quicksand you are treading into....