Originally Posted by
HopeBegins 
Recently my fiancee's grown son said to me, "You're a good influence on him, without the wine." He says he meant that I have been a good influence on his father and have generally reduced his father's drinking, which he is happy about, except when I drink myself.
This is going to be a bit of a process for you. You have alot more going on here than just a drinking problem. You might do well to visit a doctor, or a counsiler, or a combination of the two, like a psychiatrist (sp?) ...
It sounds like he has a bit of a history, and kids are involved, and you're engaged.... yeah, alot going on here and getting married isn't going to "fix it" this needs to get fixed before we bring a legally binding marriage contract into this.