Originally Posted by
HopeBegins 
How can I not let his view of me affect my own self worth?
I used to be a good athlete, competed every other weekend. Now I drink and try to make him happy. He made the decision to be with me, but now he resents it. He says he has the right to drink on a Friday night but I am so uncomfortable with his drinking. Then he says I ruined his tennis AND his NCAA watching. I hate going home b/c I feel so terrible there. But my kids are there. He says they ignore me too because I ruin things for them, too.
The best thing that you can do in this situation, is to seek out help for yourself. You are doing that here. Not drinking will help you to see things more clearly in your relationship, that seems very fragile IMO. No one can make us play bad, or drink heavily, or do anything that we dont want to do. This person sounds like he is blaming, and there is no reason for that.