I’m glad that the two of you talked it through! I had a conversation with my wife last night and I mentioned how scary this is because everything revolves around drinking. She came back with an amazing quote saying, “This family does not revolve around drinking.” So there it is. We made a pledge to just stick together as a family until I’m comfortable enough to look to build a new social environment. It may take years and a lot of my drinking friends will probably be upset but I need to make sacrifices to get this thing figured out.
As far as the job, that’s a tough one. If he is in charge of actually planning the entertainment is there any way he could plan events at non-drinking establishments? Maybe instead of having meetings over dinner, try lunch. Just tossing ideas out there.
Good luck with everything!