You will probably not like what I am about to say, so take what you can use and leave the rest.
If I were in your position, right now, I would put more of the things I and my daughter will need in the trunk of my car and when she arrives I would leave with my daughter.
Why?
NOT to prove a point.
BUT to PROTECT MY DAUGHTER. She is already being influenced (yes they are little sponges) by one practicing alcoholic, now her grandmother? NOT in my book.
I say the HELL with 'your rules.' PROTECT your daughter.
J M H O
Love and hugs,