your story sounds very familiar. When I married my husband, I soon realized he was a drinker. It continued throughout our marriage; he drank more and more. After our second daughter, I grew tired of this and his irresponsibleness (not working) and eventually I had confirmation of his cheating. It was hard in the beginning to break away....baby-sitting issues (he would baby-sit if he wasn't working), car issues (he would steal the car from me, and I would have to steal it back). My final break was when he attacked me at work to grab the keys from me. He was later arrested and I cut off communication from him and his family. I moved, changed jobs and just kept to myself and the girls were better off not seeing us fight, argue or see him drink.