Lexicat that is pretty much exactly what my mother was trying to tell me. I had a big reaction to the incident last night and got really angry, and I didn't understand why she would tell me to just ignore his behavior?! But I am very very slowly starting to sort of get it. That's probably going to be the hardest... I feel like if I don't react and I just go on like it's fine, then he will think it is ok. I think I get what you are saying though... I need to take care of MYSELF and find peace in myself, so that I can look at everything rationally and make wise decisions in this. I think.
Thanks. I think I have a good place to start now... meeting Wednesday (or if I can go tomorrow I will but need a babysitter first). Yikes I'm nervous.