so glad to hear you are getting some help and feeling more positive. It sounds like he does care in all the things that he is doing. As to why he does what he does or doesn't do other things I think it's a fallacy to try and guess. Because that's all it is a guess. Even he might not know.The main thing is you're in a positive place and that's great.! ((Hugs)) Ummm I really would not read too much into the gf - they are much more disposable than wives and kids. Sorry to anybody who is the gf of an A who has a wife and kids but from all I've read on here gf's seem to be a distraction more than anything else. Plus for what its worth I think anybody stepping in to the role she has at this time, and given your state of health is a stupid Bitch, sorry for my language.