Dear Lettingonow, maybe being skeptical of certain behaviors in others is not a bad thing---especially, now, that you are becoming more aware of yourself.
I don't know you, of course, but---is it possible that that type of flattery is one of your buttons? Sort of an Achilles heel? Sometimes we are quite eager to believe or "hear" something that we want to hear. I know I do. I think we all have our magic buttons.
As you come to understand yourself more and become aware of your own patterns, you will become able to "trust" yourself more---and, protect yourself more.
The further you get into recovery, I predict that you will become more comfortable in your own skin.
sincerely, dandylion