Hello fairlane, Welcome to the Friends and Family side of SR!
Huge congratulations on your decision to stop drinking!!!! Eight weeks is a huge accomplishment!
I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend. None of us here has a right to tell you what to do, we can just tell you what worked for us. In order to protect your new sobriety, you may need to take a break. Your health, your peace, and your sobriety are worthy of being a priority for you. That's not being selfish.
All of us who have a loved one who struggles with addiction care about them very much. Sadly, that love is not something that will get them to stop drinking. No amount of our talking, nagging, begging, pleading, tears, or threats ever made someone we love get sober. As you have already experienced in your own life, it's an inside job.
Please take good care of you!