Ever hopeful - if you go to an al anon meeting and inquire about sponsorship you can get more back and forth discussion. You can also exchange phone numbers with some members or get the group phone list and call someone to ask if they can listen to your story and talk with you - rather than the "no cross talk" style you've been encountering at the meetings. Also, if you tell someone at the meeting that you are new and really need to talk often someone will volunteer to step out of the meeting with you so you can share one on one. I did that once and it was really helpful. Glad you're getting some in person help. xo