I will second that no one in AlAnon will tell you to leave. Just as we have to allow the A's in our life to make their choices, in AlAnon your choice to stay or leave is respected. AlAnon helps you to find peace in the chaos, it helps us to focus on our own health and well being again.
I was also struck by your comment that "We have worked on it for months...". You didn't Cause it, can't Control it, can't Cure it. I can assure you that "we" is not working on this. You may be controlling things and that is not working on it. He is trying to control it by setting limits, which he is obviously not following per his phone message. A's will tell you whatever they need to in order to protect their drinking.
Whatever he is drinking now, it is a progressive disease and it will get worse. If you truly want to work on this, then focus on the only part of this you can do anything about....you. Find anAlAnon meeting and learn everything you can.
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