As he was leaving, he told me "I needed to get to a meeting". Which crushed me.
Why don't you go to a meeting? It's your recovery not his, if you feel a little vulnerable because of his comments, go to a meeting.
My wife doesn't make comments about my AA attendance, but she's not above taking "cheap shots" when she is pissed about something. I think sometimes it's not even me she's pissed at, it's something in life itself. I just happen to be nearby. But my skins a lot thicker now than it used to be, and I certainly won't drink over it.
So go to a meeting, read the BB, work the steps and your skin will get a little tougher. I'm sure your husband is a significant person in your life, but you can't let verbal comments by him drive you back to the bottle.
As Dee said, things have changed since you got sober. The balance of "power" in your marriage has changed, and you are probably more of an equal partner now, then a hopeless drunk. Your husband and you have to figure out the new dance, and it takes some time.