Based on all the affirmation I got here, I did not let her come home. She will likely never live with us again, by her own choosing now, and I truly believe that living on her own has actually HELPED her recovery. There are too many triggers at home and the ghosts of old behaviors just waiting to settle in again.
Backing off with my daughter, while initially painful, is actually now leading us to a better relationship.
Thank you very much for your advise. This is very actionable and makes sense.
Keep us posted. Have you been to AlAnon or NarAnon yet?
Yes, I attended an open meeting and my wife attended a closed one. She found it quite helpful and helped put our issues in context. I plan to go again next week and we plan to start attending the
family support group therapy at CAMH.