I sincerely have to agree with Lexie about the breathalizer, it's manipulative. That has nothing to do with building trust. You're not his Mom. Also, I understand Let Go and Let God (topic of my Alanon meeting last night!) but that isn't what picking him up from jail is about. That's about enabling the behavior. If he goes to jail for abusing you, then part of the natural consequence is he finds a ride home. As long as we step in, even a little, and make things easier for them it can impede their true recovery. Part of letting go and letting God is realizing you are not in control of what he does or what his consequences are. Stepping back and letting him and his HP work it out may be painful, but it's part of the process of detaching...."Let God". (( hugs ))