He was, but that particular group was not a good fit. (I knew some of the stuff going on from open meetings) However, he has not found another one, but is still in touch with a couple of the people he did get to know well. I'm pretty sure the other shoe will drop at some point and I jsut need to be ready. As to taking him home from jail, it was in another town and I'm still trying to live by the slogan "Let go and let God". And the breathalizer isn't for me to police him (you're right. I can tell when he's drinking). He says it's to try to rebuild the trust on those days when I only suspect.