Unfortunately, I'm very aware of the failure rate as I've been attending Al-Anon for about 1 1/2 years. And I've already started to prepare an "escape plan" so as not to be caught off guard again. I've started setting money aside, keeping an extra copy of my car key someplace secure and making plans to get my own place. If he slips up again, I can leave on a moment's notice. I've also seen him white-knuckle it and his general attitude was very different. He says he's hit rock bottom and I'm willing to cautiously accept that while still making plans. And at his trial next week, I'm going to request that he be put on a medication to help him in his "recovery" if that is what he truly wants to accomplish. If he fights it, then I'll know he isn't really being honest.