Originally Posted by
horriblethisis 
I agree, but does that mean we don't give them a chance. Do they never get better? Are our only choices (1) to live with the addiction (while in recovery), or leave all together...knowing that they NEVER change...simply because they will never have the control over addiction?
Chances are like trust, it's earned!! When it comes to an addict especially one new to recovery, you have to close your ears and open your eyes... Watch his actions but detach from his actions and let him work or not work his program.. It won't take long to see if he is serious or not...
I got tired of watching my ex continue to spiral down the rabbit hole.. It got to where I didn't believe anything he said because his actions were not backing up his words.. It got to the pout where I knew he would never change and I still struggled to let go, it wasn't until he got physical with me that I woke up and saw the light of day.. I just hate that it took so long but hey I'm a slow learner sometimes..
Keep working your program.. I see so much strength in your posts :-)