I agree that they believe their lies, my husband has told me all of those and believes them, but does that mean we don't give them a chance? Do they ever get better? Do we truly only have two choices here? (1) to live with the addict (even if they are in recovery), knowing that anytime they could relapse? (2) to leave forever...knowing that they NEVER change...simply because they will never have the control over addiction? Are there only these two choices????