Avalon- I did yhis once to get to his level so I could tolerate or enjoy being with him.
I thought if I drank in response to his drinking I would feel closer to him and have a nice time with him.
I think we as in family of alcoholics go through steps to make our lives manageable and make things work ie ok.
We just want a to fix the mess /rut but what hapoens is we end up being drug into their chaos.
Its a process and knowing what to do in our situations doesnt hapoen over night. We learn.