Stick to your boundry, you are seeing first hand what chaos ensues from being with an active addict. Unfortunately, chance are he won't leave the house. He wants to keep things how they are, and chance are he doesn't believe that you will leave. Addicts tend to think that we are all talk and count on us loving them too much to walk away. The best thing you can do for yourself is cut your losses and get out of there and start new. I know it is alot easier said than done, but it might be the only way to get out of this mess.
Bam! Here it is again -- this clarity of "just do it" that makes so much sense from outside of the disease of codependency.
From inside it's like NOOOOOO! I can't do it!
But from outside it's like DUH.
Thank you.