I think it sounds like you have lots of good things in your life that perhaps you are blind too at the moment because drink and weed are clouding your judgement.
I think a bit of respite away from your social circle is probably best.
I had no clue about alcoholism and problem drinking before I found SR.
I was so unhappy all the time.
Life seemed like pure torture and there were things I did I was totally not proud of.
I am a big believer that you don't need to label yourself as a binge drinker, alcoholic, problem drinker or whatever other definitions there are. If drink makes you unhappy, thats enough to say enough is enough.
Read and learn as much as you can here.
There are some good books recommended in some of the stickies.
There are some documentaries on you tube too, like 'rain in my heart' which made me sit up and think this is serious stuff I have got myself into.
It's great to have you here. xx