Patty:
In regards to worrying about someone at AA seeing you, frankly they are all alcoholics too so they are in the exact same boat you are in. And the second "A" stands for Anonymous - meaning that it's just as important for them to keep anonymity about you as it would be for you to remain anonymous about them.
And frankly, what's more important to you - getting sober, or caring about what other people think of you? As much as we try to hide that we are alcoholics, people know it - I can guarantee you that. So would you rather be known as a practicing alcoholic, or a recovering alcoholic?
Regarding other support groups, I know that my local are has SMART recovery meetings face to face too - so depending on where you live, you might be able to find something besides AA if that doesn't work - but you should at least give it a try. And i'm not saying that because I'm in AA ( i'm not ) but you won't know until you go right?
Best of luck!