Originally Posted by Fadedjeans

K, My telling my girlfriend was a huge mistake. When I told her I was going her look changed from relaxed to the fear of a thousand earhquakes in her eyes. She then said when her family started going to alanon not long after they stopped seeing her. SHe calls it deserted her. Then she said if your going to alanon it wont be long before you leave me too. Ever since I told her i have been pitted as the enemy. Everything I say gets a reply - did your friends at alanon teach you to say that? If you want to make a huge statement about her drinking just say the word - Alanon. Just take the help alanon gives you and carry on is advise I give you. My advice is based on my own experience telling my girlfriend about it. Things were terrible before I told her. now they are worse.