I didn't think of it as a secret...or at least something I was doing behind her back a normie would be fine with. But knowing how alcoholics react to anything that might point to them actually having a problem, I thought of keeping it hidden, although me getting home after 7pm isn't my normal.
I guess when I think about it, the alcoholic will pitch a fit regardless of telling them before the first meeting, or attending 20 and them finding out.
I feel anxious....but not enough to make me stop going.