It's too late for me to get into a discourse on God Em, but I know I blamed God for a lot of things, or at least held him accountable.
I see now some of the bad things were my fault, some of them were down to other people, and some were just bad things that happened spontaneously.
I don't know for sure whether God was responsible or not, but I choose to believe not - I believe in a loving god, not a vengeful one...so everything else falls into line behind that for me.
Thats my story anyway
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